Even the tension with which I hold her shoulder is yet another example of the duality of the universe that is ever in balance as I squeeze tighter and she either feels a pleasure from that or says ow that hurts there is the balance of my bony structured muscular hand being supportive or being harmful a weapon

It’s more about the structure or the lack thereof in how hard I squeeze I can flex that hand and tighten the muscles and hold harder or I can release and let go and sometimes she wants that hand holding her squeezing together supporting but sometimes she wants me to hold her more softly even step back and regard her in her own right without any of my structure