To

And we knew
it would happen, 
but it didn't matter,
we had to do
what we came to.

Her

And once I see her it all comes back. I want to impress her, tell her, show her. We sit down. I smile. The novelty is my favorite part; that again, all within the possibility of the next few hours, I can meet a whole new soul. I wonder: what does she do, what does she love, what does she cry about, how does she look naked, will she come home with me. And I have to start delicately, asking simple questions first and smiling.

Blake and Ish

Ish was always singing, most of the time with her headphones in her ears, singing along to whatever music she was listening to. For most people this is impossible because they need to hear their own voice to regulate their own pitch.

But Ish explained it to me once—like a painter who only needs to look at the blank canvas once and the palette of colors in his hand once, and then can close his eyes and paint the whole painting, his hand so trained in muscle memory and exactitude moving back and forth between palette and canvas, so that at the end he opens his eyes for only the second time and sees the whole masterpiece—so too with Ish and her singing with her headphones in her ears.

She didn’t need to hear her own voice; she only needed to hear the pitch and rhythm, and then she could keep up recreating it only using her feelings of the vibrations inside her head and chest. And the whole time looking like a dancer, swaying back and forth so that her long black dreads were reaching down to her waist and swinging slowly side to side.

When they first met, Blake couldn’t stand Ish’s singing. When Em introduced Ish to the group, they sat in the coffee shop and Blake, as usual, set his current volumes of interest on the table and read a few pages and then picked up his pen to write and then read some more and picked up his pen again, and he usually went on like this all morning until they left the coffee shop for lunch.

But with Ish there on this particular day when she started to sing Blake looked up from his work and just stared at her for some time with his brow furrowed but Ish couldn’t notice because she had her eyes closed with her headphones in her ears and was just swinging her long black braided hair side to side.

Blake looked back down to his work and tried to keep on reading and writing but he couldn’t and you could tell because he pushed his chair back from the desk and stood up and walked over to where Ish was standing, swaying and signing.

He tapped her on the arm and said directly, “Could you please stop?”

Ish looked at Em, her being the one that had invited Ish along. Em smiled nodded back in Ish’s direction as if giving her the approval for whatever Ish would say or do anyway.

Ish looked back at Blake and took one earphone out of her left ear and said innocently, “Stop what?” And she swayed a little bit as she said it so that her hair swung from one side of her waist to the other.

“Stop singing please. I can’t concentrate on my work with you singing like that.”

“Oh, my apologies, yes of course I can stop. I didn’t know it was distracting you.”

Blake showed her a smile and turned to go back to his desk but before he could turn all the way around Ish said, “But only if you stop scratching with your pen and turning those pages. It throws off my rhythm.”

Blake was taken aback. Em was smiling noticeably in the corner, pretending to listen to what Oliver was saying to her but really she was just watching Blake and Ish.

“Well, I’m sorry, but I can’t stop reading and writing.”

“Well, why not?” Ish asked resuming her innocent tone.

“Because that’s what I do; I read and write,” Blake responded defiantly.

“Of course. Then I’m sure you can understand that singing is what I do,” Ish said this a little more directly and stern without so much innocence.

Blake was silent and just looked at her, not just frustrated as before; still frustrated, but now with respect. He turned and went back to his desk and picked up his pen. Ish put her earphone back in her left ear and kept on singing. Em watched as Blake’s pen paused for a second as Ish started singing again, but then Blake went on writing and Ish went on singing, and they both went on for the rest of the morning. And right before they left for lunch Em could have sworn she saw Blake’s foot tapping along to Ish’s singing.

Momentum

Once you’ve put it into motion
then you just have to keep up
and let it carry you along.

The tough part is
when you want to change directions
after you’ve built up some momentum.

So that you have to
stop the whole system
and spend some time
away from the world
to rebuild the whole machine.

Until you've set it 
into motion once more
and breathe a sigh of relief
as it begins again 
to carry you along.

Read

I read a little less; in the city, I’m constantly reading into all the experiences around me.

Drishti

After a high Thursday night and early Friday morning, I am up and euphoric. Not worried about anything, lazy and just kind of floating. Not taking control of anything because what is coming to me is great.

Then after lunch in the early afternoon, I feel a dip lower—and here is where I realize the difference between what I used to do and what I want to do moving forward. I used to think that my emotions were necessarily sinusoidal. But I believe now that is a fixed mindset and not necessarily a fact of life.

Because the greatness comes from all different directions. I dip lower now sitting in my office chair after last night with Lily. But I needn’t live only in that linear. I am surrounded with friends and my body is healthy and ready for exercise and there are books and music for me to lean into and adventure as soon as I take the first step and beauty if I’ll only see it and all this is always around me.

There is also always meditation for me to return home to my Self and, what’s more, subtle, is that the dip is not necessarily a dip in any particular direction with an associated value judgment; in other words, the dip is not necessarily “bad,” if I just watch it and look at the dip on the bridge of its nose and in between its eyes and meet it with empathy.

The dip might be otherwise understood as an opportunity to take in more; whereas, when I am focused on something on the up and up, something “good,” whether it be love, beauty, art, pleasure, or anything else that occupies the whole of my conditioned dualistic attention, I am consumed by it fully. The dip is an opportunity to refocus, to have another “good” fill my attention. Yet this is still of the natural, conditioned, dualist world. On the spiritual level, the same question remains: How can I fill up with all of it always? How can I, figuratively, stay up in tree pose, focusing on my drishti, being One with all of it.

Blueberry

She hands me a small chocolate-covered blueberry. I eat it. It tastes more like my Grandma’s sofa than a blueberry. I like the taste though. I walk and wonder about these artists. How they always seemed to have a group of friends around them that influenced their work. How sometimes, a work I look at and say anybody could have created this, and other times I look at a work and say only this one individual in all of human history could have created this.

She is extremely perceptive. We each are timid about saying that a work is too minimal or, god forbid, that it is not “good.” For example, there is one work of art that was just blank—three canvases on the wall, all of them just blank. She says maybe this is just an exhibit that hasn’t been set up yet, or the artist hasn’t been here to create it yet. But then we read the little placard on the wall and it says something like “blank painting” for the title. It explains the artist wanted to show a work of art that displayed all the “opportunity” of blankness.

The exhibit is closing so we go down the elevator and before leaving find one last work of art—a giant rusted steel maze with walls at least fifty feet tall and slanted sideways. We start to walk through and soon don’t know where in the maze we are, but continue to walk along the same path assuming it must lead to the end. I feel safe with two walls on either side of me and no option other than the path in front of me and her in the path in front of me so I’m walking after her. Finally we emerge from the steel maze and I ask her, “Are you hungry?”

We walk, arm in arm, it’s a little cold outside. We walk into the restaurant. We ask the hostess for a table for two. The hostess tells us the wait will be 15 minutes. She says she’s going to use the bathroom. I sit down in a chair to wait for her. I wait for a few minutes and really start to feel the blueberry then.

Leader

It is very difficult for any leader to be anti-structure, having been deemed a leader by said structure.

Postcoital nihilism

A subtle slip into nihilism in between sex: waking up with her still asleep next to you, her cheek bone pressed against the inside of your bicep, cutting off the blood flow to your hand so that it’s gone numb, but you don’t care; that limb is hers now as far as you’re concerned.

Waking up, usually quickly, to put laundry in the wash, start breakfast, and get dressed to go out and start the day; but this morning, just laying there on your back, content to stare at the ceiling and smile. It’s not so much a “nihilism,” you suppose, as it is just an indifferent gratitude.

City

To be in a modern American city, once it’s really gotten hold of you, is like being at the center of a wheel with all the spokes bringing the rest of the world directly to you. The loves, music, arts, money; late nights in the underground speakeasy, early mornings running on the coast from pier to pier. It’s all there to fill you up; you just have to get out, and open up to it. Then it will carry you along.

Unaveraged

When we speak 
in our own 
odd unknown
language
so that each word
stays up and out
all alone
unaveraged 
into common words
that are expected
undrowned
by what is
supposedly 
already known.

 

Nonsense

I like to think of it as using the sounds (words) that we’re already used to hearing (reading) a certain way, and rearranging them in a way that still barely makes sense, so as not to be too disruptive; and then, from its newness, there opens up new parts of our thoughts and emotions.

Self

I get up and out of it
and see the moving pieces
and switch back and forth
between focusing and not focusing
on the pieces that constitute my Self.

Live

I am constantly trying to live so that my life is a worthy subject of my writing.

Humanity

Humanity, the real stuff—looking into someone’s eyes, feeling their skin—the important stuff, you have only one lifetime to learn; you cannot read it in the history books.

Here I lay

It was all of it still
as it was from the start;
alas, here I lay, dead,
buried with my art,
never having 
gotten hold 
of it.

Utopia

A utopia 
is subjective, 
of course. 
This is mine. 

Not necessarily 
my mind’s 
nor my soul’s, 
but at least 
my time and place’s.

Sleep

Lately it’s gotten hard to sleep; there are things I’d rather do than sleep anyway.

Time

All we really have is time, and it’s what we do with it that makes up a life. So I never take time for granted; I’m always trying to slow it down and fill it up with as much as possible.

Crooked Jaw

Most of the time I am changing. This way, in a professional setting, wearing a suit, shaking hands, and smiling. That way, writing on Saturday morning, frowning, one hand of fingers in my hair, forehead in my palm, and the other hand holding a cup of coffee, haggard, bags under my eyes, trying to get it out of my mind and onto the page. This way, for my girlfriend. That way, for my mother.

Except for my crooked jaw, which stays the same always. Because the doctor told me they’d have to basically saw off my teeth from the whole top half of my face, sawing right under my nose straight back to my ears, and then move my whole jaw two inches forward and drill it back into my face with screws that will be permanent and set off the metal detectors at the airport. And so I said, no that’s okay. My crooked jaw can stay the same.

spoken word nonsense

and she says no no no I don’t stop before that goes where it goes but I know it does because with those lights of hot sky soft black too but I’m going going going to take off then rise up and out of it all into the top where it all fits together and also which of the three made it be such a peculiar way like this.

Piece

A piece that discovers the meaning of meaning, held together by itself and nothing else.

Times like these

It is when I’ve really relaxed and started to pay so close attention to myself, my mind, and my body that I can breathe so smoothly through my nose. I think to myself in times like these that my meditation will be better than usual. In this particular instance, it is because I have really taken a break from thinking about it.

Wonder

I wonder what it will be calm when it dies but then they get once that it won’t and once I think it won’t I wonder if it ever did and how we’re going to make it with things the way they are.

Be

Don’t create all these ideas about who you are and what you do just keep doing and become.

Book

It gets to be
like a sickness
at the end;
you eat yourself
from the inside
and must get out.